Dealing with toxic family members or toxic people in general can be challenging, but sometimes a powerful quote can provide a glimmer of wisdom and strength.
Controllers, abusers, and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the problem is them. They always say the problem is someone else. Darlene Quimet
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Seeing unhealthy patterns in your family and deciding that those patterns end with you and will not be passed down to future generations, is an extremely brave and powerful decision.
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At some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life. Sandi Lynn
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Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless. You’re underappreciated. Steve Maraboli
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Just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you have to keep them in your life if they’re toxic. Blood means nothing sometimes.
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Don’t let people guilt you into being in contact with someone who isn’t good for your mental health.
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Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances. Dr. Janice Anderson
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You don’t get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they’re allowed to treat you.
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Toxic people create chaos, point fingers, shift blame and avoid taking responsibility. Dr. Anne Brown
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Toxic people only change their victims, never themselves. Remember that. Soulja Boy
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When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them.
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Toxic people don’t like it when others see through them, so they’ll do all they can to make everyone else look like a monster. Nitya Prakash
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You can’t change someone who can’t see an issue in their actions.
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I am worth more than these excuses. I am worth more than this inconsistent, unhealthy, disappointing dynamic. I am worthy of finding someone that is never going to allow us to settle into this toxic, distorted version of love. Liz Newman
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Your heart knows when you have given too many chances.
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The best emotional relief is not venting our problems, that only fuels the pain. It is focusing on something else, taking control of our lives and staying away from people that keep reminding us about our problems. Rodolfo Peon
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What’s more toxic than what they have done, think, or have said about you is how you let your mind receive it. In a world as ours filled with so much noise and hate, what suffers the most is our minds. Know when to keep your mind shut! Chinonye J. Chidolue
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Stay away from negative people. They drain your energy like vampires suck out human’s blood. Riza Prasetyaningsih
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As important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly toxic people will never be worth your time and energy and they take a lot of each. Toxic people create unnecessary complexity, strife, and, worst of all, stress. Travis Bradberry
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The hardest part of being in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s actually admitting you’re in one. Anna Akana
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Words don’t cover up actions. Family Member Toxic People Quotes
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Pay no attention to toxic words. What people say is often a reflection of themselves, not you. Christian Baloga
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When you notice someone does something toxic the first time, don’t wait for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Many survivors are used to the ‘wait and see’ tactic which only leaves them vulnerable to a second attack. Shahida Arabi
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If you attach to the negative behavior of others, it brings you down to their level. Guru Singh
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The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play.
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Evaluating the benefits and drawbacks of any relationship is your responsibility. You do not have to passively accept what is brought to you. You can choose. Deborah Day
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I found peace of mind when I walked away from small fights not worth fighting. I stopped fighting for people who gossiped about me. I stopped fighting for those who didn’t respect me. I quit worrying about those who wouldn’t value me for being me. Dana Arcuri
Quotes on Dealing with Family Member Toxic People
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When people pressure you to engage in negative decisions and actions, look at them boldly in the eyes and dare them to do good. Edmond Mbiaka
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Stack all the rocks you want, but if you don’t let go of the toxic people and behaviors in your life, nothing will change. Steve Maraboli
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You may be my family but I won’t let you get away with your toxic behavior.
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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt
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Sometimes, it’s necessary to temporarily distance yourself physically from toxic family members for the sake of your well being if they prove to be too toxic to be around them.
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Don’t let toxic people sabotage your happiness, ruin your positive attitude, contaminate your mind or destroy your self-confidence. Instead, surround yourself with generous, positive, and nurturing people who will lift you up. Farshad Asl
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Don’t reconnect with toxic people just because you are lonely right now. You don’t drink poison when you are thirsty. Etoilepoesie
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Not everyone deserves full access to you that including toxic family members. Samuel Zulu Family Member Toxic People Quotes
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You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic family members. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry, selfish, and unforgiving. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of you.
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My encouragement: delete the energy vampires from your life, clean out all complexity, build a team around you that frees you to fly, remove anything toxic, and cherish simplicity. Because that’s where genius lives. Robin S. Sharma
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Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself. Oprah Winfrey
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‘No’ is a complete sentence. Anne Lamott
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Always be brave enough to cut off toxic people. Soulja Boy
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When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. Brené Brown
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Negative people need drama like oxygen. Stay positve, it will take their breath away.
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Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept. Anna Taylor
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The best revenge against toxic family members is not fighting back.
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Always stay up strong, even when you don’t get support from the family. To succeed in life, you need to leave behind the ones who hinder your progress.
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It’s okay to cut ties with toxic friends and family you’ve got to prioritize your own well-being. Brenden Dilley
Dysfunctional And Toxic Family Quotes
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The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others. David W. Earle
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Families get dysfunctional if they are built of a faulty foundation of hate and resentment.
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Yes, the people around us can be insensitive, narcissistic, toxic, and sometimes even abusive, but it is up to us to take that energy on or let it flow through us. No one is responsible for taking away our happiness but us. Aletheia Luna
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Toxic people have no concept of boundaries. Sarah Regan
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Beware of those around you who subtly sow the seeds of doubt. Wayne Gerard Trotman
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Family does not mean keeping secrets, walking on egg shells, lying about who I am to keep the peace, pretending others are healthy when they are not, tip toeing around the truth, defending poor choices, engaging in toxic behavior, assuming care taking responsibilities that are not mine to carry.
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Refuse to inherit dysfunction. Learn new ways of living instead of repeating what you lived through. Thema Davis
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I think most people know when they’re in a toxic relationship it requires an enormous amount of effort to keep it going, and you don’t get what you want from it. Joanna Coles
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Bitterness is a nonproductive, toxic emotion, usually resulting from resentment over unmet needs. Craig Groeschel
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A good family will see your boundaries and move around them, a toxic family won’t even realize they’re there.
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Calling this a family doesn’t make it a loving home, it just makes it a hateful lie. Family Member Toxic People Quotes
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Belief is a toxic and dangerous attitude toward reality. After all, if it’s there it doesn’t require your belief- and if it’s not there why should you believe in it? Terence McKenna
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It is really exhausting to live in a dictatorship of ‘Me’, which is basically a tyranny of others. Stefan Molyneux
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It’s okay to cut toxic family members out of your life. Blood ain’t thicker than peace of mind.
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Families must be built on love, trust and acceptance but dysfunctional families have no such traits, which is why they are what they are.
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Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you. Kimber Waul
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Blood doesn’t make you family. Some of the most demonic and demeaning people in your life share your DNA. Temi Ade
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Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space. Asa Don Brown
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An oppressive nature is like inclement weather, surrounding others and crushing them down with its infectious gloom. Stewart Stafford
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All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. Leo Tolstoy
Quotes on Negative and Hurtful Family Members
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Toxic family members will see expressions of forgiveness as weaknesses to exploit. Don’t give in to their tactics this way. If you need to forgive them for your own healing, then do it, but keep it to yourself. Sherrie Campbell
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Toxic people condition you to believe that the family problem isn’t the abuse itself, but instead your reactions to the abuse.
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Don’t associate yourself with toxic people. It’s better to be alone and love yourself than surrounded by people that make you hate yourself. Robin Williams
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Brother or sister has no meaning if they treat each other like worst enemies. Samuel Zulu
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How can you say you are my family when all you did is malign me as if I am your worst enemy.
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A lot of people who have experienced trauma at the hands of people they’ve trusted take responsibility, and that is what’s toxic. Hannah Gadsby
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Toxic people are people who cause harm to another, often through emotional manipulation. Perpetua Neo
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Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out. Robert Tew
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Ask yourself, would you do this to your family? If not, why let them do this to you?
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Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters. John Mark Green
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Blood relations cease to have their use if people related by it behave otherwise.
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Love them but don’t be part of their drama. Samuel Zulu
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Life is short. Don’t waste it on negative people.
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Energy vampires prey on others because they are in pain, and their behavior is a disguised cry for help. You are not responsible for resolving their issues. You can offer help, butit is ultimately their responsibility to sort our their struggles. Aletheia Luna
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Families are homes built on a foundation of trust and love. A toxic family can never be a home, because the foundation doesn’t exist.
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Avoid negative people, for they are the greatest destroyers of self confidence and self-esteem. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you! Auliq Ice
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Family relations isn’t a license for them to abuse you. Samuel Zulu
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A toxic family is even worse than a toxic relationship. Rohan Chouhan
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Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part, changing behavior. David W. Earle
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Who has time for toxic relationships? If someone isn’t honoring your feelings, it’s not a real relationship. If you feel drained after spending time with someone, that’s a red flag! Doreen Virtue
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When someone is rude and toxic, remember it’s not about you. It’s a reflection of their inner strength. Bernadette Logue
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There are only two kinds of people who can drain your energy: those you love, and those you fear. In both instances it is you who let them in. They did not force their way into your aura, or pry their way into your reality experience. Anthon St. Maarten
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The scapegoat is the mentally healthiest member of the toxic family.
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Just because someone is family doesn’t mean you have to tolerate lies, chaos, drama, manipulation and disrespect.
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Toxic family relationships spoil all other relationships, unless you remove the poison before it’s too late.
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An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you. Goi Nasu
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Family too can be cut off if it proves to be too toxic to be around. Samuel Zulu
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The ones who say “you can’t” and “you won’t” are probably the ones scared that “you will.”
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If they do it often, it isn’t a mistake; it’s just their behavior. Steve Maraboli Family Member Toxic People Quotes
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Toxic people are great actors. They will utilize whichever props are available to maintain control in the relationship. Shannon Thomas
Toxic Parent Quotes
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Narcissistic parents will try to hurt you any way they can emotionally. Be aware that if they can’t get to you directly, they will try to hurt you through your children. Tina Fuller
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Wherever there is a major deficit in parental love, the child willin all likelihood respond to the deficit by assuming itself to be the cause of the deficit, thereby developing an unrealistically negative self-image. Sherrie Campbell
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If you have to parent your mother and put up with her childish and selfish behaviors, it may be time to create more serious boundaries for your own self-protection. Barrie Davenport
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A toxic mother can cause just as much damage as an absent father.
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All of us develop our expectations about how people will treat us based on our relationships with our parents. Susan Forward
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Toxic mothers are image-oriented rather than love-oriented. Sherrie Campbell
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One of the hallmarks of a dysfunctional family is lack of empathy. Parents do not show unconditional love, instead becoming judgmental. Rather than attempting to understand a child’s feelings and point of view, a dysfunctional parent might rely on anger or derision, making the child feel guilty or demeaned. Tricia Hussung
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Parents who don’t care about you routinely ignore or dismiss the boundaries you have placed to make you feel safe.
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Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must conform to the thoughts and actions of the toxic parents. Susan Forward
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People tend to raise the child inside them rather than the child in front of them. Joe Newman
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In the Narcissistic parent’s eyes, they do no wrong, nor do they feel they should be held accountable for the bad and wrong things they have done. Katherine Childress
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You can’t change the toxic behavior of your toxic parents but you can decide how you respond. Family Member Toxic People Quotes
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A toxic mother talks but never listens, and she gives advice but never takes any. Sherrie Campbell
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Toxic parents care more about how you make them look than how you actually feel.
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You don’t have to repeat the trauma of your childhood. Use the pain your mother inflicted on you to motivate you to find a better way to raise your own children. Barrie Davenport
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A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love. Sherrie Campbell
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Cleanliness is a habit that keeps the body, mind, and environment neat, clean, and delightful and free from dirt and toxic things. Amit Ray
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It’s amazing how quickly things can turn around when you remove toxic people from your life. Robert Tew
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Cutting people out of my life doesn’t mean I hate them. It means I respect myself. Family Member Toxic People Quotes
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Until we admit certain things we would rather excuse or deny, we cannot truly begin to put the past in the past and leave it there once and for all. Unless we do that, we cannot even begin to think of having a future that is fully ours, untethered to the past, and we will be destined to repeat it. Ronald Allen Schulz
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Cutting a family out of your world does not make you a bad person. It makes you self-aware. It makes you strong enough to do the right thing.
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Cutting toxic people off doesn’t make you a bad person, selfish, or weak. Cutting toxic people off means you value your integrity over what other people think about you.
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Forgiveness is a personal process that doesn’t depend on us having direct contact with the people who have hurt us. Sharon Salzberg
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How you choose to feel today should not be dependent on others. Anthon St. Maarten
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If you do not come from a healthy family, but you should do your best to ensure that a healthy family emerges from you.
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My friend, you are not alone. No matter what you’ve suffered, the abuse was not your fault. You didn’t cause someone to hurt you. Not as an innocent child, teenager, nor as an adult. Let that sink in. It’s not your fault. Dana Arcuri
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As you remove toxic people from your life, you free up space and emotional energy for positive, healthy relationships. John Mark Green
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One day, you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through, and it will be someone else’s survival guide. Brené Brown
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Cutting people off doesn’t have limits. Family can get cut off too if they are causing you stress. Eliminate any negativity in your circle.
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Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
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You don’t heal in a place where you get hurt.
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Don’t confuse familiar with acceptable. Toxic relationships can fool you like that. Steve Maraboli
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Letting go of toxic people is self-care. Maxime Lagacé
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If your family doesn’t treat you the right way, make sure you do.
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I do not hate my toxic family members. I also do not need them. Sherrie Campbell
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Relationships end, but they don’t end your life. Steve Martin
Quotes on Moving on from the People in a Toxic Family
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Let negative people live their negative lives with their negative minds. Moosa Rahat
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I have found the best way to deal with a toxic person is to not respond in any other way than monotone voice and a businesslike manner. Jen Grice
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May you reach that level within, where you no longer allow your past or people with toxic intentions to negatively affect or condition you. Lalah Delia
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I will not allow anyone to walk in my mind with dirty feet. Mahatma Gandhi
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If it’s hurting you more than it’s healing you, love yourself enough to let it go. Sherrie Campbell
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Things only get better when you cut off the worst.
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It’s very possible and very okay to forgive someone and still not want to spend time with them. Karen Salmansohn
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When you walk away from a toxic family, you begin the journey of finding your true people.
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Leave when you need to. In years, you will look back and realize it’s the best decision ever. Family Member Toxic People Quotes
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It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go. Daniell Koepke
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Losing will not always amount to a loss, sometimes you have to lose those toxic relationships and bad habits to create a space for better things. Gift Gugu Mona
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Hatred is toxic to you and those around you. The condition should be treated with understanding and love until it is healed. Leon Brown
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Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself. Deborah Reber
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Like arsenic, toxic people will slowly kill you. They kill your positive spirit and play with your mind and emotions. The only cure is to let them go. Denisse Lisseth
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When you say “No” to a toxic family, you say “Yes” to loving yourself.
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Let go of negative people. They only show up to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear, and judgment on others. If somebody is looking for a bin to throw all their trash into, make sure it’s not in your mind. Dalai Lama
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Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself. Hussein Nishah
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Having healthy boundaries not only requires being able to say no, but also being willing and able to enforce that no when necessary. Jessica Moore
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You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you. Leave when you need to. In 10 years, you will look back and realize it’s the best decision ever.
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Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential. Let them go so you can grow.
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The path to freedom is illuminated by the bridges you have burned, adorned by the ties you have cut, and cleared by the drama you have left behind. Let go. Be free. Steve Maraboli
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We all have that toxic people around us that make our lives miserable… The day we take them out from our lives, we will all become better people; including them… Rodolfo Peon
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Just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you have to keep them around if they are toxic or abusive. Don’t let people guilt you. Winnie Nantongo
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Love yourself enough to walk away from lies and dramas.
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If all they bring into your life is pain and misery, you need to start cutting your losses fast.
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You’ll notice that breaking free from someone else’s dominance will often result in them accusing you of being selfish. Yes, you’re selfish, because you’ve stopped doing what they want you to do for them. Rosie Blythe
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You don’t have to live happily ever after with every single person in your life in order to live happily ever after. Some unfortunate endings are necessary. Joyce Rachelle
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They are not sorry for harming you. So, don’t feel guilty for cutting them off. John Mark Green
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Sometimes you don’t get closure, you just move on. Karen Salmansohn
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Stop complaining about toxic people. You have the chance now to be better and do something new. Don’t settle where you harbor feelings of loss and guilt. New doors can open for you if you are willing to move forward and drop the negative attitude. Germany Kent
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You don’t let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself. Charles Orlando
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There are people who break you down by just being themselves. They need not do anything. Dissociate. Malebo Sephodi
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In order to reach your highest potential, it is imperative that you remove all negative people from your life. Germany Kent
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Sick of the excuses they’re still your mom/ dad/ sister/ brother/ son/ daughter/ friend… etc. No, toxic is toxic. You have the right to cut anyone off that’s unhealthy for you.
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If you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end low vibrational relationship or friendship you won. Lalah Delia
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I burned by bridges so the devil couldn’t follow me. L.M. Browning
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Let’s get out of the habit of telling people that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister. Toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you. Bynnada
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You can not change the people around you, but you can change the people that you choose to be around.
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You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they are no longer in your life. Tara Westover
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When we are raised in toxic families, we often go through a time period, and for some of us, a lifetime of repeating the toxic patterns we were raised in with other people in our lives. We do this until we decide we’ve had enough pain and choose to genuinely examine our patterns and stop the craziness for good. Sherrie Campbell
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You are not part of a toxic family if you walk away.
Summary
Toxic family members can be a source of immense emotional turmoil and stress. These individuals, who are supposed to be the closest to us, often exhibit patterns of behavior that are detrimental to our well-being and personal growth. Dealing with toxic family members can be an arduous and complex process, requiring a delicate balance of self-preservation and compassion.
One of the defining characteristics of toxic family members is their ability to manipulate and control those around them. They may use guilt, emotional blackmail, or passive-aggressive tactics to maintain power and dominance within the family dynamic. This behavior can leave the victim feeling trapped, isolated, and emotionally drained.
Toxic family members often thrive on conflict and drama. They may engage in constant arguments, criticism, and belittlement, making it nearly impossible to maintain a healthy and loving relationship. Their toxic behavior creates a toxic environment that affects everyone involved, causing feelings of anxiety, low self-esteem, and even depression.
In some cases, toxic family members may exhibit narcissistic tendencies, always seeking validation and attention at the expense of others. They may disregard boundaries, constantly seek control, and display a lack of empathy towards the feelings and needs of those around them. This can result in a profound sense of neglect and emotional abuse for the individuals affected.
Breaking free from the toxic cycle of family dynamics is challenging but essential for one’s well-being. It often involves setting clear boundaries, limiting contact, or even completely severing ties with toxic family members if necessary. Seeking support from trusted friends, therapists, or support groups can be instrumental in navigating this difficult journey.
It is crucial to remember that it is not your fault for having toxic family members. Their behavior is a reflection of their own issues and struggles, and it is not your responsibility to fix or tolerate their toxicity. Prioritizing your mental and emotional health is paramount, and surrounding yourself with positive, supportive relationships can help heal the wounds inflicted by toxic family members.
Toxic family members can have a profound and lasting impact on our lives. Recognizing their toxic behavior, setting boundaries, and seeking support are crucial steps in breaking free from their detrimental influence and creating a healthier and happier life for ourselves. Remember, you deserve love, respect, and peace, even if it means distancing yourself from toxic family members.
JADE is an acronym for a strategy to maintain clear and healthy boundaries from toxic family members.
J = Justify: Don’t try to justify yourself to toxic people. It’s unproductive. A = Argue: Do not waste your energy arguing with toxic people. D = Defend: Don’t waste your breath trying to defend yourself to those who don’t care. E = Explain: Never explain yourself, especially to those who discredit you.
In a happy family, we urge our kids to be affectionate and connected to one another. Children are taught competition in narcissistic homes by being pitted against one another. Who is performing better and who is not is constantly compared. Others serve as the scapegoat for the parents’ projected bad emotions while some children are loved or viewed as the “golden child.” In narcissistic homes, siblings rarely experience strong emotional bonds as children.
Recognize that it’s abusive before terminating relationships with a toxic family member. Stop downplaying and denying the damage that your family member has brought about. Stop believing that they’ll change. Be in mourning for not being able to have the kind of relationship you desired with this individual. Seek for support from a therapist, support group, step group, or friend who has dealt with similar familial issues.