Behind many great children is a stepparent who stepped in, took responsibility and cared. Unknown
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A healthy stepmother knows that somedays she’s a stagehand, somedays she’s the leading lady, and somedays she’s the audience…and she plays each role with style and grace. Unknown
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Even on days when you feel like you are doing everything wrong, I promise you your stepkids still think you are the best stepmom. Unknown
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I use the word bonus mom because I feel like it’s a blessing in my life. I feel so lucky that I got to have an extra, wonderful little angel in my life. Gisele Bündchen
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Most stepmoms will never even try to take over the role of the bio mom in their stepkid’s life, but she will do her best to be accepted as an equal part of the family. Unknown
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There is no universal approach when it comes to being a stepmom. So, let us all just do our best to encourage and help each other through it. Unknown
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Partners and stepchildren sometimes don’t see stepmothers as real mamas, even though they often do just as much as a biological mother (sometimes more) a stepmom also cooks, cleans, washes clothes, gives the kids baths, tells stories, cuddles them, etc. It is said that with great power comes great responsibility. But stepmothers’ shoulder great responsibilities even when they have limited power over their stepchildren in terms of acceptability and trust. Unknown
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You have been the mother that I need. Even though you didn’t birth me, you have played such an important role in my life. I have the best of all worlds by having you as my sweet and wonderful “second mom.” Unknown
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She never gets tired of making me feel what it’s like to have a family not solely based by blood or name, but by heart and soul. Unknown
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Being a stepmom means they grew inside of my heart instead of my tummy. Unknown
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To the stepmom who feels like you are failing. Don’t doubt yourself. Right now, it feels hard, but each day you still show up, even through the exhaustion. You pour your love into your children, even though your cup feels empty. You do the best you can, even when you think you can’t. And that dear mama is not failing. You are amazing. Unknown
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Not a single drop of my self-worth depends on what the bio mom in my situation thinks of me. Unknown
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Stepmothers in books usually behave very spitefully towards the children entrusted to them. But he was now learning from his own experience that in real life, this does not always happen. Murasaki Shikibu Positive Mom and Stepmom Quotes
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The bond that links your true family is not one of blood but of respect and joy in each other’s life. Richard Bach
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Half and full should be used in Maths, not in relationships. There are no half-mothers, only complete families. Unknown
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Little souls find their way to you, whether they’re from your womb or someone else’s. Sheryl Crow
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Becoming a blended family means mixing, mingling, scrambling, and sometimes muddling our way through delicate family issues, complicated relationships, and individual differences, hurts, and fears. But through it all, we are learning to love like a family. Tom Frydenger
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Being a stepmom is like completing someone else’s incomplete melody. Understanding the already-created tune and adding your personality to seamlessly complete it is a work of a true maestro. Unknown
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I don’t care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching — are your family. Jim Butcher
Short Positive Mom and Stepmom Quotes
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We aren’t stepfamily, we aren’t half family, we’re just family. Unknown
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A good stepparent can literally turn the life of a child around. Unknown
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Yes, I didn’t give you life, but you gave me mine. Unknown
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Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother. Oprah Winfrey
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Marriage brought us together, being a family is just what’s in your hearts. Unknown
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To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there. Barbara Bush Positive Mom and Stepmom Quotes
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Being a mother is an attitude, not a biological relation. Robert A. Heinlein
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A stepmother’s role is sometimes difficult, but it is always worthwhile. Ivana Davies
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I asked God for a best friend, so he sent me a stepmom! Unknown
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However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle. Valeria Harper
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You came not to replace my mother but to add to the love that I am receiving. Unknown
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Happiness [is] only real when shared. Jon Krakauer
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You never treated me as a spare child but as an extra blessing. Unknown
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Dear Stepmom, thank you for being patient with me…every single day. Unknown
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Home isn’t where you’re from, it’s where you find light when all grows dark. Pierce Brown
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A stepmother’s role is sometimes difficult, but it is always worthwhile. Ivana Davies
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Who cares if another woman or man loves your child, plays with your child, or builds a healthy relationship? Either way, your child is benefiting. Jessica James
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Bright families are like bright colors: When you blend two, you get something beautiful! Unknown
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Not every child in this world is fortunate enough to have two beautiful moms in a single lifetime. Unknown
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Proud Stepmothers. We are not attempting to be some other person. We are quite amazing just being ourselves. Unknown
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A home isn’t always the house we live in. It’s also the people we choose to surround ourselves with. T.J. Klune
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When it feels as if you can’t do right by the other parent, do right by your stepchild instead. You’ll never fail with your best interest at heart. Jessica James
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The older I get, the more I realize that my stepmom is the best friend I could ever have. Unknown
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A good stepmom is not made–she is built. She is built by the hardship of her role, the tears she cries in secret, and by the lessons, she learns through trial and error. Michelle Zunter
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I will never understand the difference between a stepmother and a biological mother because you’ve never shown me the difference between the two. Unknown
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Step-parents are not around to replace biological parents but rather to augment a child’s life experience. Azriel Johnson
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I might not have carried them in my belly for nine months, but I promise to carry them in my heart forever. Unknown
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Being a stepmom is not easy, but a sweet hug and kiss from the kids are all worth it. Unknown
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My stepmom is an angel who gave me additional love, and I am so grateful. Unknown
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I love my stepmom and everything she does for me. I couldn’t imagine my life without her in it. Unknown
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Step-parents are not in the background anymore. They’re at the forefront of raising our children — and more so every day. Michelle Brown
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Happy Mothers’ Day to a woman who has always tried to fill the empty space in my heart, not my mother’s shoes. Unknown
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A stepparent doesn’t just marry a spouse; they marry an entire situation. They find a balance between supporting and defending without overstepping visible and invisible boundaries. Unknown
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You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them. Desmond Tutu Positive Mom and Stepmom Quotes
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To my stepmom, thank you for being brave enough to face uncertainties when all things were new. You never made us feel like a stranger’s child. You always loved us as your own. And I will always love you for that. Unknown
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Stepparenting is working at a late-night convenience store…all the responsibility and none of the authority. Valerie J. Lewis Coleman
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All of a sudden, you’re thrown into doing motherly duties. And I call that the stepmom vortex. You just get pulled in. You’re making lunches. You’re making dinners. You’re going to practice. … Nobody tells you. Kendall Rose
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Being a parent wasn’t just about bearing a child. It was about bearing witness to its life. Jodi Picoult
Heartwarming Mom and Stepmom Quotes
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Family is family and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. C. Joybell C.
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A happy family is the greatest dream for all children whose parents have been through a divorce or who lost a parent in a tragic way. Only one whose heart is full of love can choose to love someone else’s child as their own. Unknown
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They are not my stepchildren. They are my children who came into this world before I met them. Unknown
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Stepmoms show mutual love and appreciation which is the basis of every happy family not blended, not half, just family. Unknown
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I never had that wicked stepmother or evil stepfather thing at all. I’m very close to both stepparents and I consider them to be my parents, too. Mark Ronson
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Step-parenting and being a step-sibling presents a lot of exciting opportunities. When families break up and re-form, there may be less order, less certainty, and a bit more trauma involved, but kids can end up having half-a-dozen parent figures. Morris Gleitzman
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No matter what happens, I want my stepchildren to know that they are forever loved. Unknown
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Stepparents are not around to replace a biological parent, rather augment a child’s life experience. Azriel Johnson Positive Mom and Stepmom Quotes
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Just because she didn’t give birth to the child doesn’t mean she isn’t capable of loving them. Unknown
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Being a stepmom is one of the most selfless things you could do in your life. Ivana Davies
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Being a stepmom is a relationship like no other. Even the seemingly impossible challenges and fights will bond you to your stepchild or stepchildren for a lifetime. Michelle Brown
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Family isn’t something that’s supposed to be static or set. People marry in divorce. They’re born, and they die. It’s always evolving, turning into something else. Sarah Dessen
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Remember why you chose to come together in the first place—the love that you have for your partner. Your partner’s children are an extension of them, and this makes them just as important to your happiness. Beth Huber
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Co-parenting is not a competition. It’s a collaboration of two homes working together with the best interest of the child at heart. Work for your kids, not against them. Anne Brown
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The only steps in this house are the stair steps, and the only half in this house is the half-and-half creamer. Al Hodson
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Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone, but still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute. You didn’t grow under my heart but in it. Fleur Conkling Heyliger
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Good step-parents do much of the parenting that birth parents do but without much credit. They comfort, advise, teach, support, encourage, and love their stepchildren. They make a valuable contribution in their lives. Kelly Eden
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To my stepmom, thank you for being brave enough to face uncertainties when all things were new. You never made us feel like a stranger’s child. You always loved us as your own. And I will always love you for that. Unknown
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You must remember family is often born of blood, but it doesn’t depend on blood. Trenton Lee Stewart
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If the standard route for creating a family had worked for me, I wouldn’t have met this child. I needed to know her. I needed to be her mother. I know now why all those events happened. Or didn’t happen. So I could meet this little girl. She is, in every way, my daughter. Nia Vardalos
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I love my stepmom. She may not have given birth to me, but she has always raised me as her own. Unknown
Positive Mom and Stepmom Quotes About Love
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I might not be the mother who gave you the gift of life, but I’m glad life gave me you as a gift. You are my stepdaughter and I will truly love you no matter what. Unknown
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Being a stepmother has worked out very well for me. I love my stepchildren very much. Philippa Gregory
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Family isn’t blood. It’s the people who love you. The people who have your back. Cassandra Clare
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A caring stepmother doesn’t have to replace the child’s own mom. She will secure her own special place in the heart of the child by her love and care. Unknown
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A stepparent is so much more than just a parent: They made the choice to love when they didn’t have to. Unknown
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It takes someone really brave to be a stepmom. Someone strong to raise a child not her own but love them with all her heart anyway. Unknown
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Anyone who ever wondered how much they could love a child who did not spring from their own loins knows this: it is the same. The feeling of love is so profound, it’s incredible and surprising. Nia Vardalos Positive Mom and Stepmom Quotes
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Although my stepson and I may not share the same blood, we will always share the same love. Unknown
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Biological, step, foster, adoptive. It’s not the word before ‘mom’ that defines you, but rather the love and dedication in your heart. Unknown
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From the moment I became a stepmother, my purpose has been to love and protect these children with everything I have. Unknown
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A child cannot have too many people who love them and want to help them succeed. Unknown
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Family isn’t defined only by last names or by blood; it’s defined by commitment and by love. Dave Willis
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A stepparent is an amazing person. They made a choice to love another’s child as their own. Unknown
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Families don’t have to match. You don’t have to look like someone else to love them. Leigh Anne Tuohy
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Blended families are woven together by choice. Strengthened together by love. Tested by everything. And each is uniquely ours. Unknown
Summary
A few expectations from StepMomming.com that StepMom should be accountable to Mom for .
Return texts and calls as soon as possible.
Don’t allow the child to call Stepmom “Mom”
Don’t force children to have to choose between Mom and Stepmom.
Stepmom should work at understanding Mom’s perspective.
Share pics and stories from when the children are iwth Stepmom.
Never criticize Mom to son or daughter.
Consult Mom on major decisions
Report any important questions and discussions to Mom.
Chatelaine.com lists some areas to focus on when you become a Stepmom. (from parenting expert Kathy Lynn)
You cannot rush the formation of a relationship between a Stepmom and a child. How quickly a child warms up to a Step-parent is a very complex dynamic. It has more to do with the experiences the child has been through than who the Stepmom is. Let the relationship develop over time through shared activities.
Be yourself. You are not looking to be a replacement for their biological mother. And, you don’t have to be like her.
Be sensitive on issues of discipline. You should expect manners and civility from a step-child, but allow.
No matter how well you treat stepchildren, they can see you as being the obstacle that will forever block their parents getting back together.
Children are children and parents are adults. They will test you and at times cause difficulties. We did the same for our parents, regardless of whether they were biological or step, when we were growing up.
Interact with your extended family with an open mind.
There will be times when you feel that you are on the outside looking in. Your husband and his children have a history before you. Respect that.
Your spouse cannot force his children to like you but he should insist that your step-children treat you respectfully.
Be kind to the children’s biological Mom.
Sharing time during holidays, birthdays, graduations
Your stepson or stepdaughter still have hope that their parents will get back together. Their father’s marriage to you is the end of that hope. They will probably have some resentment toward you for that.
Always remember that they are children and will act like it. They will be immature and emotional. That is developmentally appropriate for children and should be expected.
Enter the relationship with your blended family with an open heart and an open mind.
There will be times that you might feel like an outsider when your husband and his children share memories from before you knew them.