It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. Dale Carnegie
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Hurting people not only does not change them, it is also never called for. Dale Carnegie
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Knowledge isn’t power until it is applied. Dale Carnegie
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If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don’t want to be. Dale Carnegie
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Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude. Dale Carnegie
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Happiness doesn’t depend on who you are or what you have, it depends solely on what you think. Dale Carnegie
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One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses. Dale Carnegie
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A misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation, and a sympathetic desire to see the other person’s point of view. Dale Carnegie
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Everybody in the world is seeking happiness—and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. Dale Carnegie
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Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on tyring when there seemed to be no hope at all. Dale Carnegie
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The successful person will profit from their mistakes and try again in a different way. Dale Carnegie
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Only knowledge that is used sticks in your mind. Dale Carnegie
Today is life–the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today. Get interested in something. Shake yourself awake. Develop a hobby. Let the winds of enthusiasm sweep through you. Live today with gust. Dale Carnegie
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Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want. Dale Carnegie Quotes
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Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation, for your character is what you are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are. Dale Carnegie
Dale Carnegie Quotes on Winning Friends
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Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other person’s viewpoint. Dale Carnegie
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You can’t win an argument. If you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Dale Carnegie
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Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still. Dale Carnegie
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If you want to keep happiness, you have to share it. Dale Carnegie
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Personally, I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn’t think about what I wanted. I thought about what they wanted. I didn’t bait the hook with strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or grasshopper in front of the fish and said: ‘Wouldn’t you like to have that?’ Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people? Dale Carnegie Quotes
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Criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Dale Carnegie
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The world is full of people who are grabbing and self-seeking. So, the rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage. Dale Carnegie
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Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Dale Carnegie
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I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heave to get the best of an argument–and that is to avoid it. Dale Carnegie
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The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members, and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned. Dale Carnegie
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Control your temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry. Dale Carnegie
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Try honestly, to see things from the other person’s point of view. Dale Carnegie
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Criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Dale Carnegie
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When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion. Dale Carnegie
Dale Carnegie Quotes on How to Stop Worrying
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If only the people who worry about their liabilities would think about the riches they do possess, they would stop worrying. Dale Carnegie
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If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie
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Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed. Dale Carnegie Quotes
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You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. Dale Carnegie
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All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory. Dale Carnegie
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Do you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn’t you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn’t most of them turn out all right after all. Dale Carnegie
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One of the tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie
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When faced with a worry, ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst. Dale Carnegie
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Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have. Dale Carnegie
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When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness. Dale Carnegie
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If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep. Dale Carnegie
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Only the prepared individual deserves to be confident. Dale Carnegie
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Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment. Dale Carnegie
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Fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. Dale Carnegie
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Do the thing you fear to do… that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear. Dale Carnegie
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Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. Dale Carnegie
Biography of Dale Carnegie
Dale Carnegie was an American writer, lecturer, and creator of courses on self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. He was born on November 24, 1888, and died on November 1, 1955. He is known for his book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People,’ one of the best-selling self-help books of all time.
He was an early innovator in the realm of public speaking as well as the psychology of a successful personality. He sold advice that made readers feel successful and even become successful themselves, capitalizing on the American thirst for success in the process.
One of the main ideas in his books is that it is possible to change how other people act by changing how one acts toward them.
He was born on November 24, 1888, in Maryville, Missouri. He was involved in debating organizations throughout high school and college. Carnegie attended Warrensburg State Teachers College (now the University of Central Missouri.) After graduation, he worked as a salesperson in Nebraska, an actor in New York City, and eventually as a public speaking instructor at the YMCA.
Carnegie began lecturing to packed rooms once his classes became immensely popular. To standardize his teaching methods, he began distributing pamphlets, which he later compiled into a book, Public Speaking: A Practical Course for Business Men (1926; also published as Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business). He also managed a lecture tour with journalist and adventurer Lowell Thomas and wrote Little Known Facts About Famous People (1934).
Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People, which was a huge hit, made him a star right away (1936). Like most of his books, it didn’t tell us much we didn’t already know about how people think, but it did stress how important a person’s attitude is. He taught that everyone could benefit from a disadvantage if it was shown in a good way. Carnegie took advantage of the American desire to be successful by selling advice that helped people feel like they were successful and maybe even become successful. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, published in 1948, is another book. It is mostly a collection of commonsense ways to avoid stress.
At the age of 66, Carnegie passed away from Hodgkin’s disease on November 1, 1955. Carnegie was a pioneer in the disciplines of self-improvement and adult education, and his writings and seminars served as the basis for an entire nonfiction writing subgenre. How to Win Friends and Influence People is still relevant and helpful to professional men and women decades after it was first published, despite the boom of more contemporary self-help books that have been created in recent years.
How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
