As I was fighting for you, I realized I was fighting to be lied to, fighting to be taken for granted, fighting to be disappointed, and fighting to be hurt again, so I started fighting to let go. Unknown
You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.’ Joel Osteen
Stop asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it. One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on. Alain de Botton
The best thing about life is that when you feel disappointed, there will always be a new opportunity to take the place of what disappointed you. Unknown
When you are disappointed it is easy to beat yourself down and wonder why situations always end up they way they are. It is better to always remember that some things were just never meant to be. Unknown
The strength of your desire is what will be used to measure your success just as your method of handling disappointments will be used to measure your character. Unknown
To courageously straighten up again after our heads have been bowed by defeat, disappointment and suffering is a supreme test of character. Wilferd Peterson
A burning desire to be or do something gives us staying power-a reason to get up every morning or to pick ourselves up and start in again after a disappointment. Marsha Sinetar
The simple solution for disappointment depression: Get up and get moving. Physically move. Do. Act. Get going. Peter McWilliams Disappointment Quotes in Relationships
It may be hard to let go of disappointments and negative feelings but once you are able to do that, you will feel lighter, more energetic and and more free to live. Unknown
You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. Dwelling on a disappointing situation is like walking through drying cement; eventually you will get stuck. Instead make a mental note, picked yourself up and continued living life. Carlos Wallace
What do you do when disappointment comes? When it weighs on you like a rock, you can either let it press you down until you become discouraged, even devastated, or you can use it as a steppingstone to better things. Joyce Meyer
It was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though you didn’t have something in the first place. I guess that’s what disappointment is – a sense of loss for something you never had. Deb Caletti
There’s only so many times you can allow someone to let you down before you will no longer tolerate being disappointed. When things go wrong between two people, something has got to give. You get to the point where you get tired of being the only one trying to fix things, it’s not giving up, it’s realizing you had enough. You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if it hurts. Brigitte Nicole
The principles of living greatly include the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and trial with humility. Thomas S. Monson
Life is not always a celebration; so be ready to courageously face disappointments when they come, and be sure to grow stronger and wiser from them. Edmond Mbiaka
At some point even the best couples will disappoint one another. What is important is you don’t go away, you don’t escape, you don’t leave one another just because you were disappointed. Unknown
To a noble soul, disappointment is likened to cold water to burning metal. It only works to strengthen, intensify, and temper but it never destroys it. Unknown
People and events don’t disappoint us, our models of reality do. It is my model of reality that determines my happiness or disappointments. Stephan Zweig
There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go. If you trust, you will be disappointed occasionally, but if you mistrust, you will be miserable all the time. Abraham Lincoln
Nothing in life has happened to you. It’s happened for you. Every disappointment. Every wrong. Even every closed door has helped make you into who you are. Joel Osteen
Disappointments are a result of failed expectations. To have fewer disappointments, either expect less from other people or demand more from yourself. Kevin Ngo
Everybody has fallen down or been disappointed in love. Where you truly shine is when you get back up. Use it as a learning experience and believe in all of the possibilities. Sherry Argov
Live life, expect nothing and yet prepared for disappointments because they do happen. There is always a big success after a great disappointment, like the light at the end of the tunnel. Unknown
I am pieces of all the places I have been, and the people I have loved. I’ve been stitched together by song lyrics, book quotes, adventure, late night conversations, moonlight, and the smell of coffee. Brooke Hampton
There’s always failure. And there’s always disappointment. And there’s always loss. But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums. Michael J. Fox
Disappointment is just the action of your brain readjusting itself to reality after discovering things are not the way you thought they were. Brad Warner Disappointment Quotes in Relationships
The more loyal you are to everyone, the more you will be disappointed. Be loyal anyway. Let’s face it: none of us are ever going to get to the place in life where we have no more disappointments. We can’t expect to be sheltered from everything. Disappointment is a fact of life—one that must be dealt with. Joyce Meyer
So much of our disappointment in relationships is not because we have an unrealistic view of others, but because we have a distorted view of ourselves. Paul D. Tripp
Nothing is perfect in love. If you expect it to be, better be ready for disappointment. There is always a choice to make in every disappointments that will come in your life. It is a gift when someone shares your disappointment. Often, the mere listening of one’s woes is enough to dispel it. Unknown
Summary
Experiencing a disappointment in a relationship is not a personal failure or an indication that we are not worthy. Every person who has ever lived has experienced relationship disappointment at some time or another.
Relationship disappointment is common. This is true because every person has a unique manner of thinking, behaving, and doing things. There will always be times of frustration and disappointment, even in the most perfect love stories.
Let’s look at how to cope with disappointment in relationships, including how to avoid it, manage it, and get past it.
Frustration and disappointment result from unmet expecations. There are various types of expecations and many expectations vary from person to person. The expectations that we hold for others are as unique as each of our individual personalities.
Some expectations are common to all of us and to all relationships. Some of those are respect, expressing love, caring, honesty, kindness, and faithfulnes. When any of those are violoated by either partner, there will be some hurt, frustration and possibly disappointment and anger.
According to Anchorlightthearapy.com, some (not an all inclusive list) unrealistic expectations for a relationship are:
There are never disagreements in a healthy relationship.
Being able to know what each other is thinking or feeling without discussing it.
That both partners will be in the mood for sex on a frequent basis.
No friends of the gender they are attracted to.
Expecting that all free time will be spent together
There are occasions when one partner may unwittingly act in ways that can irritate the other. Expecting them to change their personality.
You can change your expectations to avoid being let down by your relationship. That does not mean to have no expectationn, but rather change your perspective on your partner. Instead of expecting them to behave in a particular manner that is far different from their genuine baseline personality, start accepting them for who they are and working with that.
To put yourself in the best possible postion to experience as little disappointment as possible, be specific about your “partner wish list.” If people you meet fail to meet these expections, then it is best that you not pursue a relationship.
As an example, here are some qualities that you might be looking for:
Honest
Steady employment
Lives wihin a specific distance or driving time
Similar education to yours
Emotionally and sexually appealing
Dependable
Good communicator
The idea is not to use this list, but to come up with your own based on who you are.
When you do experience disappointment, remember we all do, here are some things you need to consider as you attempt to improve the situatioin move past it or move on from the relationship.
Communicate with your partner about what has disappointed you and what you were expecting
Hold the discussion when you are both calm, rested, comfortable, and not subject to any distractions.
Focus on the source of disappointment you are experiencing, don’t bring up previous grievances.
The purpose of the discussion is not to detemine a winner and a loser. You very likely will need to compromise some of your own personal expectiaons if your purpose is to keep the relationship strong.
Don’t assume that your partner’s view of the world should match yours. You need to talk through the situation to learn how each other sees the problem.
Don’t base your feeling of self-worth and happiness on the actions or opinions of others even if you are married.
If you move forward, set an example in the relationship for how you want it to be.
