125 Forgiveness Quotes for Him

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Forgiveness Quotes to Mend a Relationship

A broken relationship that is mended through forgiveness can be even stronger than it once was. Pin
A broken relationship that is mended through forgiveness can be even stronger than it once was. Stephen Richards
Every relationship has problems. In the end it comes down to how badly you want to see it through. I’m not going to let this break it apart. I forgive you. Pin
Every relationship has problems. In the end it comes down to how badly you want to see it through. I’m not going to let this break it apart. I forgive you. Unknown
Forgiveness is a conscious choice to let go of disappointment and embrace hope. I’m making it today, I forgive you.Pin
Forgiveness is a conscious choice to let go of disappointment and embrace hope. I’m making it today, I forgive you. Unknown
Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude. Pin
Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude. Martin Luther King Jr.
Forgiveness is the final form of love. Pin
Forgiveness is the final form of love. Reinhold Niebuhr
Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of life.Forgiveness Quotes for Him Pin
Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of life. George MacDonald
Forgiveness is the key to inner peace because it is the mental technique by which our thoughts are transformed from fear to love. Pin
Forgiveness is the key to inner peace because it is the mental technique by which our thoughts are transformed from fear to love. Marianne Williamson
Forgiveness may not heal the wounds, but it will stop them from getting deeper. Forgiveness Quotes for Him Pin
Forgiveness may not heal the wounds, but it will stop them from getting deeper. Unknown
Genuine forgiveness is participation, reunion overcoming the powers of estrangement... We cannot love unless we have accepted forgiveness, and the deeper our experience of forgiveness is, the greater is our love. Pin
Genuine forgiveness is participation, reunion overcoming the powers of estrangement… We cannot love unless we have accepted forgiveness, and the deeper our experience of forgiveness is, the greater is our love. Paul Tillich Forgiveness Quotes for Him
Giving a second chance is better than regretting later that you didn’t.Pin
Giving a second chance is better than regretting later that you didn’t. Unknown
I forgive you because I think you deserve another chance.Pin
I forgive you because I think you deserve another chance. Unknown
I forgive you, because I still believe it’s not too late for us to be who we could’ve been. I love you.Pin
I forgive you, because I still believe it’s not too late for us to be who we could’ve been. I love you. Unknown
I know that you love me and I love you… and nothing else matters. I forgive you.Pin
I know that you love me and I love you… and nothing else matters. I forgive you. Unknown
I'd rather have a fresh start than a bitter ending. I forgive you.Pin
I’d rather have a fresh start than a bitter ending. I forgive you. Unknown
I’m not saying that what you’ve done is ok… I’m saying that I believe you, when you say that you’ll never do it again. I forgive you.Pin
I’m not saying that what you’ve done is ok… I’m saying that I believe you, when you say that you’ll never do it again. I forgive you. Unknown
Relationships survive when mistakes are forgiven, not punished.Pin
Relationships survive when mistakes are forgiven, not punished. Unknown
The mere existence of the word forgiveness in our vocabulary and in our dictionary argues for a transcendent capacity for moral reasoning and intelligent judgment far above the rest of the natural living world. Pin
The mere existence of the word forgiveness in our vocabulary and in our dictionary argues for a transcendent capacity for moral reasoning and intelligent judgment far above the rest of the natural living world. Barton Jahn Forgiveness Quotes for Him
Unforgiveness is like having weeds in the garden of our soul. Weeds grow and reproduce until an entire garden is destroyed. If you want a garden of love, joy, and peace in your heart, you must get rid of all the weeds. Pin
Unforgiveness is like having weeds in the garden of our soul. Weeds grow and reproduce until an entire garden is destroyed. If you want a garden of love, joy, and peace in your heart, you must get rid of all the weeds. Patricia Partney Dascher

Forgiveness Quotes for Husbands

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Forgiveness Quotes for Him Pin
A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Robert Quillen
Forgiveness is the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive.Pin
Forgiveness is the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive. Unknown
Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hatred. It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness. Pin
Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hatred. It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness. Corrie Ten Boom
Forgiveness is the most effective way of dealing with arguments; altruism and forgiveness bring humanity together so that no conflict, however serious, will go beyond the bounds of what is truly human.Pin
Forgiveness is the most effective way of dealing with arguments; altruism and forgiveness bring humanity together so that no conflict, however serious, will go beyond the bounds of what is truly human. Dalai Lama
I believe in second chances. I believe in letting go. But most importantly, I believe in us… I forgive you.Pin
I believe in second chances. I believe in letting go. But most importantly, I believe in us… I forgive you. Unknown
I forgive you, because I want to hold on to what we have, rather than remember it as what we had.Pin
I forgive you, because I want to hold on to what we have, rather than remember it as what we had. Unknown
I forgive you, not because I’m ok with what you did… but because letting hate ruin the memories would be an insult to all the sacrifices we've made for each other.Pin
I forgive you, not because I’m ok with what you did… but because letting hate ruin the memories would be an insult to all the sacrifices we’ve made for each other. Unknown
I want to build on what we have instead of crying over what we don't. I forgive you.Pin
I want to build on what we have instead of crying over what we don’t. I forgive you. Unknown
I will forgive you for hurting me because that's what real love is all about.Pin
I will forgive you for hurting me because that’s what real love is all about. Unknown
I'm choosing the future over the past. I forgive you.Pin
I’m choosing the future over the past. I forgive you. Unknown
I’ll never understand why you did, what you did. The truth is, I don’t even want to. All I want is for us to be the way we were… happy. I forgive you.Pin
I’ll never understand why you did, what you did. The truth is, I don’t even want to. All I want is for us to be the way we were… happy. I forgive you. Unknown
Since you’ve been brave enough to apologize, then I’m strong enough to forgive.Pin
Since you’ve been brave enough to apologize, then I’m strong enough to forgive. Unknown
There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love. Pin
There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love. Bryant H. McGill
To err is human, to forgive, divine.Forgiveness Quotes for Him Pin
To err is human, to forgive, divine. Alexander Pope
True forgiveness is not an action after the fact, it is an attitude with which you enter each moment. Pin
True forgiveness is not an action after the fact, it is an attitude with which you enter each moment. David Ridge
Us is more important than you and me. I forgive you.Pin
Us is more important than you and me. I forgive you. Unknown
Who you are to me in my life means a lot more than what you've done. I forgive you.Pin
Who you are to me in my life means a lot more than what you’ve done. I forgive you. Unknown
Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation. Pin
Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation. Roberto Assagioli Forgiveness Quotes for Him
You cannot forgive just once, forgiveness is a daily practice. Pin
You cannot forgive just once, forgiveness is a daily practice. Sonia Rumzi
You hurt me. Unintentionally, I know. I forgive you.Pin
You hurt me. Unintentionally, I know. I forgive you. Unknown
You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.Pin
You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well. Lewis Smedes
No matter what, I know that you love me and I love you… and nothing else matters. I forgive you.Pin
No matter what, I know that you love me and I love you… and nothing else matters. I forgive you. Unknown
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By having a forgiving attitude, you can change your life and the lives of the people you care about most. Kathie M. Thomson
Don't get angry quickly - be kind, be forgiving, be patient. Pin
Don’t get angry quickly – be kind, be forgiving, be patient. Patricia Meyers
Forgiveness can make a marriage whole again. Pin
Forgiveness can make a marriage whole again. Elijah Davidson
I encourage you in your marriage to make the first step in forgiveness or reconciliation and then trust God for the results. Pin
I encourage you in your marriage to make the first step in forgiveness or reconciliation and then trust God for the results. Brandon Harrison
It is never too late to forgive ourselves for our past shortcomings and restore that feeling of excitement to our lives by living them with an attitude of positive expectancy! Then was then - and now is now. Pin
It is never too late to forgive ourselves for our past shortcomings and restore that feeling of excitement to our lives by living them with an attitude of positive expectancy! Then was then – and now is now. Don McArt
Once you realize we're all equally capable of doing wonderful or horrible things to those we love, it's easier to plant that seed of forgiveness and allow it to start growing. Pin
Once you realize we’re all equally capable of doing wonderful or horrible things to those we love, it’s easier to plant that seed of forgiveness and allow it to start growing. Linda Barbosa
Real forgiveness is a lifelong commitment. You must practice it every day. Pin
Real forgiveness is a lifelong commitment. You must practice it every day. Richard Daly
Though I was unaware of it at the time, that simple act of forgiveness was the beginning of an entirely new level of experiencing life for me. Pin
Though I was unaware of it at the time, that simple act of forgiveness was the beginning of an entirely new level of experiencing life for me. Wayne Dyer
We are not perfect, forgive others as you would want to be forgiven. Pin
We are not perfect, forgive others as you would want to be forgiven. Catherine Pulsifer
When a partner does make a mistake, it isn't acceptable for the other partner to dwell on it and constantly remind the spouse of the mistake. Forgiveness can make a marriage whole again.Pin
When a partner does make a mistake, it isn’t acceptable for the other partner to dwell on it and constantly remind the spouse of the mistake. Forgiveness can make a marriage whole again. Unknown

Best Forgiveness Quotes for Him

Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were. Pin
Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were. Cherie Carter-Scott
As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind. Pin
As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind. Isabelle Holland
Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them. Pin
Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them. Marvin J. Ashton
Each one of us is more than the worst thing we've ever done. Pin
Each one of us is more than the worst thing we’ve ever done. Sheryl Sandberg
Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. Pin
Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. Jonathan Huie
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Pin
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Tony Robbins
Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave. Pin
Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave. Indira Gandhi
Forgiveness is not a one off decision; it is a journey and a process that takes time, determination, and persistence. Pin
Forgiveness is not a one off decision; it is a journey and a process that takes time, determination, and persistence. Corallie Buchanan
Forgiveness is the best give we can give to ourselves… Forgiveness is the last and most high form of love. Pin
Forgiveness is the best give we can give to ourselves… Forgiveness is the last and most high form of love. Catherine Ponder
Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions. Pin
Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions. Gerald G. Jampolsky
It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody. Pin
It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody. Maya Angelou
Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love? Pin
Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love? Leo Buscaglia
Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge and dares forgive an injury. Pin
Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge and dares forgive an injury. E.H. Chapin
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies. Pin
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies. Nelson Mandela
The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world. Pin
The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world. Marianne Williamson
Forgiveness is for you - not the other person. It's something you do inside yourself that you feel in your body and heart that releases you from your past and frees you to live life fully. Pin
Forgiveness is for you – not the other person. It’s something you do inside yourself that you feel in your body and heart that releases you from your past and frees you to live life fully. Barbara J Hunt
If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember. Pin
If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember. Kahlil Gibran

Forgive and Move on Quotes

Every relationship has faults. The only way to make it stronger is to accept, forgive and move on.Pin
Every relationship has faults. The only way to make it stronger is to accept, forgive and move on. Unknown
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.Pin
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. Paul Boose
Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom. Pin
Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom. Hannah Arendt
Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past. Pin
Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past. Alexa Young
Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory.Pin
Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future. Lewis B. Smedes
I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. Pin
I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. Henry Ward Beecher Forgiveness Quotes for Him
I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than strict justice.Pin
I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than strict justice. Abraham Lincoln
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. Pin
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. Steve Maraboli
There is hope in forgiveness. Pin
There is hope in forgiveness. John Piper
When I talk of forgiveness I mean the belief that you can come out the other side … a better person than the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to forgive then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You can move on. Pin
When I talk of forgiveness I mean the belief that you can come out the other side … a better person than the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to forgive then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You can move on. Desmond Tutu
You were my girlfriend, and I’ll always treasure that. Life had different plans for us, but I’ll never let the memories fade away. I forgive you, but it’s time to move on.Pin
You were my girlfriend, and I’ll always treasure that. Life had different plans for us, but I’ll never let the memories fade away. I forgive you, but it’s time to move on. Unknown
To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it. Pin
To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it. Confucius
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness. Pin
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness. Robert Muller
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.Pin
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. Lewis B. Smedes
To forgive is wisdom, to forget is genius. And easier. Because it's true. It's a new world every heart beat. Pin
To forgive is wisdom, to forget is genius. And easier. Because it’s true. It’s a new world every heart beat. Joyce Cary
True forgiveness is when you can say, 'Thank you for that experience.'Pin
True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience.’ Oprah Winfrey
We can't go back. We can only go forward. Pin
We can’t go back. We can only go forward. Libba Bray
When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future. Pin
When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future. Bernard Meltzer
Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast. Pin
Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast. Marlene Dietrich
Despite all that you’ve done, I respect the love I had for you, and always will. It’s a part of me that I’ll never want to erase. I wish you well, but I must move on. I forgive you.Pin
Despite all that you’ve done, I respect the love I had for you, and always will. It’s a part of me that I’ll never want to erase. I wish you well, but I must move on. I forgive you. Unknown
Forgiveness is a conscious choice to let go of disappointment and embrace hope. I’m making it today, I forgive you.Pin
Forgiveness is a conscious choice to let go of disappointment and embrace hope. I’m making it today, I forgive you. Unknown
Chances are someone has hurt you really bad and the only way you will be free from the anger is to forgive them. Pin
Chances are someone has hurt you really bad and the only way you will be free from the anger is to forgive them. James Robor
Forgiveness eliminates the wounds of the past from the mind and the heart. Pin
Forgiveness eliminates the wounds of the past from the mind and the heart. Iyanla Vanzant
Forgiveness is a powerful thing. It doesn't change what has happened; it changes what is to come. Pin
Forgiveness is a powerful thing. It doesn’t change what has happened; it changes what is to come. Janeen Latini
You cannot change the actions which led you to your situation now, but you can control your actions and thoughts as you move forward. It's important to forgive, and let go. Pin
You cannot change the actions which led you to your situation now, but you can control your actions and thoughts as you move forward. It’s important to forgive, and let go. C. Felder

Deciding to Forgive

In love, everyone does things that hurt the other person, so there really is no 'Right' and 'Wrong'. You just have to decide what you're willing to forgive. Pin
In love, everyone does things that hurt the other person, so there really is no ‘Right’ and ‘Wrong’. You just have to decide what you’re willing to forgive. Yvonne Wood
Heart filled with anger has no room for love. Pin
Heart filled with anger has no room for love. Joan Lunden
A life lived without forgiveness is a prison. Pin
A life lived without forgiveness is a prison. William Arthur Ward
A strong person gives forgiveness but weak people gives permission. Pin
A strong person gives forgiveness but weak people gives permission. Santosh Kalwa
Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting. Pin
Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting. William Arthur Ward
Forgiveness is a powerful expression of the love within our soul. Pin
Forgiveness is a powerful expression of the love within our soul. Anthony Douglas
Forgiveness is a sign that the person who has wronged you means more to you than the wrong they have dealt. Pin
Forgiveness is a sign that the person who has wronged you means more to you than the wrong they have dealt. Ben Greenhalgh
Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart. Pin
Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart. Corrie Ten Boom
Forgiveness is like faith. You have to keep reviving it. Pin
Forgiveness is like faith. You have to keep reviving it. Mason Cooley
Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU. Pin
Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU. Iyanla Vanzant
Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge. Pin
Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge. Isaac Friedmann
Forgiveness isn’t approving what happened. It’s choosing to rise above it. Pin
Forgiveness isn’t approving what happened. It’s choosing to rise above it. Robin Sharma
Forgiveness means saying that you're not going to let what happened to you define you any longer. Pin
Forgiveness means saying that you’re not going to let what happened to you define you any longer. Heidi Priebe
Forgiveness takes intelligence, discipline, imagination, and persistence, as well as a special psychological strength. Pin
Forgiveness takes intelligence, discipline, imagination, and persistence, as well as a special psychological strength. Edward M. Hallowell
If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one. Pin
If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one. Robert Brault
It is surely better to pardon too much, than to condemn too much. Pin
It is surely better to pardon too much, than to condemn too much. George Eliot
It's not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you. Pin
It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you. Tyler Perry Forgiveness Quotes for Him
Let us forgive each other – only then will we live in peace. Pin
Let us forgive each other – only then will we live in peace. Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy
Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! The more you deny that you are angry, in attempts to be "holy" the more inhuman you will become, and the more inhuman you will become, the harder it will be to forgive. Pin
Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! The more you deny that you are angry, in attempts to be “holy” the more inhuman you will become, and the more inhuman you will become, the harder it will be to forgive. C. JoyBell C.
Men who do not forgive women their little faults will never enjoy their great virtues. Pin
Men who do not forgive women their little faults will never enjoy their great virtues. Khalil Gibran
Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness. Pin
Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness. H. Jackson Brown Jr.
The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. Pin
The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. Louise Hay
The forgiving state of mind is a magnetic power for attracting good. Pin
The forgiving state of mind is a magnetic power for attracting good. Catherine Ponder
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Pin
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi
Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.Pin
Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too. Unknown
We don't forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it—because we need it. Pin
We don’t forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it—because we need it. Bree Despain
We read that we ought to forgive our enemies; but we do not read that we ought to forgive our friends. Pin
We read that we ought to forgive our enemies; but we do not read that we ought to forgive our friends. Sir Francis Bacon
We think that forgiveness is weakness, but it's absolutely not; it takes a very strong person to forgive.Pin
We think that forgiveness is weakness, but it’s absolutely not; it takes a very strong person to forgive. T. D. Jakes
Because I make mistakes, I know others do too. I've found when I give forgiveness, it's me - not the other person - who benefits. Pin
Because I make mistakes, I know others do too. I’ve found when I give forgiveness, it’s me – not the other person – who benefits. Ellen Miller
Forgiveness takes willingness, even a determination, a decision if you will.Pin
Forgiveness takes willingness, even a determination, a decision if you will. Lori Hill
Forgiveness should start now. Putting off forgiving only deepens the wound. Clinging to bitterness postpones happiness. Life is short, time is fleeting. Today is the day to forgive.Pin
Forgiveness should start now. Putting off forgiving only deepens the wound. Clinging to bitterness postpones happiness. Life is short, time is fleeting. Today is the day to forgive. Wilfred Peterson
The hardest thing in life is to forgive. But hate is self-destructive. If you hate somebody you're not hurting the person you hate, you're hurting yourself. Forgiveness is healing.Pin
The hardest thing in life is to forgive. But hate is self-destructive. If you hate somebody you’re not hurting the person you hate, you’re hurting yourself. Forgiveness is healing. Louis Zamperini
We may not know how to forgive, and we may not want to forgive; but the very fact we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing practice. Pin
We may not know how to forgive, and we may not want to forgive; but the very fact we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing practice. Louise Hay

Summary

It is one of the most difficult decisons that anyone in a relationship has to make when a transgression occurs.  Do you forgive and move on or do you forgive and try to work things out while staying together?  Remember, the decision to forgive is as much to help you release the weight of what happened as it is to pardon the offender.

I hope that the quotes above are both a comfort and some tools to use when considering what to do when one partner disappoints the other.

Some things to consider when deciding on a course of action are:

  • Even though a problem in a relationship is a very emotional issue, as you are working through what you need to do, do the best you can to think from a more emotionless perspective.  Minimizing emotion will allow you to think more clearly and completely.
  • The history of the relationship.  Have there been frequent issues other than this time, or is this an exception.
  • How serious is the relationship?  If you have only been together for a short time, you might take Maya Angelou’s advice: The first time someone shows you who they really are believe them.  If you have been together a while and this isn’t the norm, that should be considered.
  • How severe is the transgression?  Was it a one time out of chracter missing an important outing with your family, or is it an ongoing cheating?
  • Put yourself in your partner’s shoes.  What led to the problem that you are having? Is there somehting that you are not aware of or are misinterpreting?  How would you expect your partner to react if you had been the one who misbehaved?
  • Do the best you can to think about how your decision makes sense for the long term.  You could be feeling embarassed, angry, hurt, or any other number of emotions.  In a few days or weeks, you will be past those emotions.  So, do the best you can not make how you feel right now be a factor and try to draw on the way you will be feeling weeks from now.

If you do decide to stay together and move past it, you have to work it out and then not bring it up anymore.  It cannot be a point to bring up to help you win the inevitable disagreement that will happen at some point in the future. 

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